A trying to conceive at Christmas poem

A poem for everyone trying to conceive this Christmas.

To be read in the rhythm of T'was the night before Christmas.

T'was the week before Christmas

T'was the week before Christmas and my thoughts turn to babies

At what point in my life did that change from Baileys?

I've been tracking ovulation each month with care

In the hope that our timing will bring fruit to bear.

I want a baby nestled all snug in my belly

Visions of motherhood turn me to jelly.

Another year goes by showing one line not two

My strength is waning I'm feeling so blue.

While others enthuse of presents and snow

I'm left feeling empty and ever so low.

It's all about the children they say of this season

But where are mine? They have given me no reason.

Unexplained infertility stings like a burn

We are left without answers we are trying to learn.

Each year I say the next will be different

A positive result by next Christmas would be sufficient.

I'm determined to celebrate and hold onto hope

But I'm finding it hard and I'm struggling to cope.

We kept it a secret and didn't want to share

Now we have told people and they really care.

Christmas can be a time full of magic

But for many this season can feel pretty tragic.

All of our joy can be pumped up and enhanced

But our pain can be stronger and we can feel entranced.

Attacked by our thoughts and worries each day

Here is a trick to dispense them – just say

“Now worry, now sadness, now grief and despair

I hear you, I feel you, I'm fully aware.

I choose now to release you one thought at a time.”

And out of the darkness I begin to climb.

For our thoughts are not facts, I know it's hard to believe

But once you start practising the quicker you get the negative to leave.

Ask yourself “Is this thought and thinking the truth?”

Really question the evidence like the best kind of sleuth!

The freedom this gives is outstanding you see

You have just learnt the way to be emotionally free.

Your thoughts are yours to do with as you choose

Why hold on to the ones that hurt you and bruise?

New strength can be found if you slow down and listen

Perhaps Christmas might feel different and even start to glisten.

So I hope that this poem has offered new insight

Happy Christmas to all and to all a good night. xxxx

Originally posted in 2014.

Further reading

For tips on: How to stop the Infertility Grinch from stealing Christmas. 

Another poem: The Unborn Mother 

Join The Embrace Winter Retreat which runs from now until the 13th Jan

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with Fertility Therapist Naomi Woolfson

By manifesting I mean energetically aligning with your innate fertility, reprogramming your subconscious mind for success and clearing the self preservation beliefs that may be causing you to self sabotage rather than the toxic bullshit of “Just relax” and “Really believe.”

• You didn’t just want to be pregnant by Christmas. You wanted to be 12 weeks pregnant so that you could share your news.
• You also wanted the uncertainty to be over. You wanted this feeling of dread in your stomach and this tightness in your chest to be replaced with a sense of relief and assurance.
• You are dreading the weeks ahead and hate that this time of year, that you used to love, feels like it’s been stolen by infertility, along with your sense of worth and wellbeing.

What if I told you there is a better way to navigate ALL of this. A way that not only feels empowering and expansive but can DOUBLE your chances of pregnancy success in 2026 (or maybe even 2025)? 

I will be sharing the techniques that I found indispensable whilst trying to conceive and now share with women across the globe.

"I am incredibly grateful for the work I've done with Naomi. She has helped me shift my mindset in ways I never thought possible." - Erin

1. The Christmas we should be having

It is very easy while trying to conceive to feel that infertility has stolen Christmas. I used to adore this season but years of trying to conceive took its toll and it became something I dreaded, a time when it's really difficult not to think about how you had expected your life to turn out. I will teach you techniques to help you cope with the fact that this Christmas probably isn't going to look like what you wanted it to look like allowing to feel relief and comfort.

2. Awkward Questions

We have all experienced that awkward silence after an aunt or well-meaning friend tells us to hurry up and have a baby before it is too late. I will share some fantastic comeback replies ranging from the softly softly to the whack them round the face with a sprig of holly response! Suitable for all levels of inappropriate comments.

3. Combating overwhelm

Christmas is intense, the shopping, the preparation, the expectations, spending extended time with family, all the while having to look like you are really enjoying it. Having a few tricks up your sleeve to keep yourself feeling sane and balanced is essential to balance your nervous system and bring a sense of safety to your mind and body.

4. Emotional Freedom Techniques

EFT tapping on the subjects of not looking forward to Christmas and coping with jealousy. I will also teach you hand tapping a quick version of EFT which you can use to bring your body out of stress response and into relaxation and the beautiful heart anchor technique to allow you to focus on love and gratitude and enhance these feelings in your life.

5.Magical Manifesting

Let's tune in with the magic and power of manifesting and raising your vibration to set you up for an amazing 2026.

These powerful techniques will take you from just surviving and thriving during the holiday season and beyond. 

What's included:

• Online retreat with 2 live calls
• Surviving the Holidays while trying to conceive workshop instant access
• One month membership to The Embrace Circle
• End of year release and new year intention setting live call 30th December
• Circle Support Call 6th Jan
• A powerful and beautiful fertility visualisation track.
• Supercharge Your Sleep Yoga Nidra MP3 to allow you to relax your mind and body deeply and easily.
• Manifesting Maths workshop recording
• Follow the yellow brick workshop recording
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